This month I have been talking about mothering and the importance of gathering at the table on a regular basis.
We gather nightly and when we do so much happens at that table.
When we gather…
We share.
We laugh.
And we try to keep things very light.
It’s also where we discuss things as a family….what’s happening.
But we try to keep it really light.
And the reason it's important to keep things light is because the tendency of the mind is to stick to the negative. For example, if within a day you had twenty awesome fun things happen to you and you had one negative thing happen to you, what are you going to remember?
Naturally you're going to remember that one negative thing.
Why?
Because that's the nature of the mind.
The nature of the mind is to keep us safe and to stick to the negative things.
So once you understand that you can say, “Ahha, I get that”.
That’s why what we need to do is build a Currency Bank of JOY, LOVE, SECURE ATTACHMENT, a SECURE BASE. These UNBREAKABLE RELATIONSHIPS with our children, so that when crap goes down, as it inevitably does at some point, you've got this bank of love and security that is unwavering, unquestioning, to lean back on and for your children to lean back on.
There is so much that happens at that table.
Much love and aloha,
Dagmara
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